February 2013

Mummy midwife & the power of friends

Hello there lovely followers of The Baby Journey, you will already know that Jules has been away for the last couple of weeks on a well-deserved holiday to tropical shores.

What you might not know is how much I’ve missed her, and how lovely it is to have her back. I’ll tell you a little secret, and not everyone will admit this, but probably most of us feel it sometimes – it can be a bit lonely being a mummy. While you love your little one like you have never loved anyone or anything, being a mum means you need your friends more than ever. Sometimes you wonder if you’re doing a good job, or if you’re doing the right thing. Is your little person reaching the milestones they should reach? Are you feeding them right? Should you be doing some kind of activity with them? Maybe there’s another way to approach something, or an idea to solve a problem that you haven’t come up with – and bingo your pals are there with ideas, solutions, top tips and reassurance. What’s that expression? Two heads are better than one, a problem shared is a problem halved.

Having friends who are mums is brilliant – because you can swap tips, moan about the trials and tribulations, share in the joys and magic, they know what it is you are going through because they are going through it too. They are pleased to help you out, suggest things that have worked for them (or things to avoid that didn’t work!). They totally understand why you are half an hour late, with sick down your right shoulder and looking frazzled with dirty hair and your top on inside out. They’ve got you a coffee and are ready with a hug and a sympathetic smile. You chat to them, you look at your little ones together and everything calms down, you can see that you’re doing okay, in fact you are doing great!

But often all you need is a big friend hug, a giggle about everything, and maybe even a date in the diary for drinks and outfits that don’t have baby dribble on them.

So I’m off to get the diary out and ring the girls……. x x

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Mummy midwife & the miracle of new babies!

Something amazing has happened this week. One of the people I love most in the world has had her first baby.

 

I am an auntie again to an absolutely beautiful little girl who has a mop of dark hair like her mummy and a little button nose and big deep eyes that drink in the world. She has captivated everyone around her and is a total time waster as you stare at her little features and every tiny movement and marvel.

 

Although I am already a mum myself, and have been a midwife for a decade (ooh that makes me feel old) sharing in the magic of my little sister’s journey into motherhood is wonderful. Firstly I am so very proud of her that I could burst, as a big sister, and a woman and a midwife – she was totally amazing in labour and is one cool little customer when it comes to the trials and tribulations of new mummy hood. It is really lovely to be able to help her if she needs it too – to answer the questions that worry her, to recommend tips on how to solve problems (engorged breasts, encouraging a sleepy baby to feed, whether to worry about the funny noises she makes, how many layers for little one to wear in bed – all the new mummy niggles). To share and relive all those exhilarating moments of wonderment at your tiny new baby’s life and those all-consuming worries about them too.

 

I could not be prouder of my baby sister (yes she’s not far off 30, but she’ll always be my baby sister!) and what an amazing mummy she already is.

 

For everyone there will be a sister, a friend, a partner, a parent (probably all of them!) who feels the same about you and your beautiful little bundle. So proud and overjoyed for you that they can hardly contain it (if they’re anything like me they’re boring colleagues with baby photos). For all those moments when you are tired or unsure, feeling lonely or worried, take a step back for a moment and see yourself through their eyes – you and your baby are a miracle, and you are doing brilliantly. And there are always people around to love you and help you, who never stop cheering for you from the sidelines. The Baby Journey is always cheering for you too! Because you are epic!